I think that a friend, and I mean a true friend not just an acquaintance, is someone who is patient, kind and unselfish.
PATIENT - A true friend will have patience when tough situations arise. Patience means being slow to anger and quick to try to resolve any issues that may arise in the friendship. A friend will not “dump” his/her friend when there are problems in their relationship.
KIND – A true friend will extend kindness toward their friend. Being kind to a friend is an important part of a relationship. Patience will try to resolve problems; kindness is a way of letting a friend know that you care about them. In a way kindness is a preemptive measure against problems between friends by showing that you care about your friend.
UNSELFISH – A true friend in not selfish. You can be a patient and kind friend but if you are patient and kind just to brag about how good of a friend you are, it is not being done with the right attitude of the heart. A true friend will put the needs of their friend above their own. “A true friend wants the best for you. A true friend is forbearing and forgiving constantly” (Sunshine).
This is my quick and incomplete definition of a true friend, I obviously have double standards.
~The Boundary Layer
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Thursday, February 26, 2009
DEFINITION # 3
I think the best way to describe a true friend is that they are there for you when the rest of the crowd lets you down. A true friend doesn't do good things so that other people see their good deeds, they do good things so that the person they are trying to bless sees that they are truly a friend. A true friends wants the best for you. A true friend is forbearing and forgiving constantly. Well, that's my definition!
Sunshine
Sunshine
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Definition #2
A friend loveth at all times. Proverbs 17:17
What is your definition of a friend?
As I pondered that question and tried to come up with an answer my thoughts kept getting all mixed up due to the fact that I have different "kinds" of friends, and a different definition for each kind. Also that I keep wanting to define friendship, instead of friend, something that will have to wait for another time. So, on the issue of friend, rather than try to condense the different definitions into one very broad and general definition, I thought it would be better to separate them out like they are in my mind. Besides, I have tried the other way for several days now and gotten no where. So here goes;
1) A "casual" friend: Someone I know, like, and get along with, but don’t know well enough to have a deeper relationship with. These are the "How are you?" and "What do you think of the weather?" "friends". - People in this category would better be called acquaintances but are generally referred to as "friends".
2) A friend: Someone I know better, spend time with, invite over, and have a good relationship with. Someone that I can talk with about the weightier issues of life, have minor "animated discussions" with, end agreeing to disagree, and still be friends. - This group contains both Guys and Gals, and is where most of the people that I call friends would fall.
3) A "best" friend: Someone who I can really open my heart up to. Someone that I can talk with about dreams and wishes, personal struggles and hopes, and other deep issues. Someone that I know will support me and be there for me when I need it most. Someone with whom my relationship goes to a deeper level than in the other categories. - This definition is strictly reserved for members of the same gender.
These are very short, I know, but the other alternative was already at three pages long and still going strong. I decided that in keeping it down, maybe more people would read it, and I could get my thoughts posted before I am 30 :)
A few final notes on what the thought of a "true friend" brings to mind.
A true friend prays for you. A true friend is trustworthy. A true friend gives, not takes. A true friend loves and listens. A true friend will tell you things you may not want to hear, when they believe that it is for your good, even at risk to themselves. A true friend wants what is best for you. A true friend is sent by God to lift up and encourage, an undeserved blessing, but one that we gladly receive!
There are more that could be added to the list, but these were topmost in the order. They are not only what I look for in a friend, but also ( as I realized when I was making the list), what I as a friend should be.
I look forward to hearing what you all think.
May God bless,
Nyiad
What is your definition of a friend?
As I pondered that question and tried to come up with an answer my thoughts kept getting all mixed up due to the fact that I have different "kinds" of friends, and a different definition for each kind. Also that I keep wanting to define friendship, instead of friend, something that will have to wait for another time. So, on the issue of friend, rather than try to condense the different definitions into one very broad and general definition, I thought it would be better to separate them out like they are in my mind. Besides, I have tried the other way for several days now and gotten no where. So here goes;
1) A "casual" friend: Someone I know, like, and get along with, but don’t know well enough to have a deeper relationship with. These are the "How are you?" and "What do you think of the weather?" "friends". - People in this category would better be called acquaintances but are generally referred to as "friends".
2) A friend: Someone I know better, spend time with, invite over, and have a good relationship with. Someone that I can talk with about the weightier issues of life, have minor "animated discussions" with, end agreeing to disagree, and still be friends. - This group contains both Guys and Gals, and is where most of the people that I call friends would fall.
3) A "best" friend: Someone who I can really open my heart up to. Someone that I can talk with about dreams and wishes, personal struggles and hopes, and other deep issues. Someone that I know will support me and be there for me when I need it most. Someone with whom my relationship goes to a deeper level than in the other categories. - This definition is strictly reserved for members of the same gender.
These are very short, I know, but the other alternative was already at three pages long and still going strong. I decided that in keeping it down, maybe more people would read it, and I could get my thoughts posted before I am 30 :)
A few final notes on what the thought of a "true friend" brings to mind.
A true friend prays for you. A true friend is trustworthy. A true friend gives, not takes. A true friend loves and listens. A true friend will tell you things you may not want to hear, when they believe that it is for your good, even at risk to themselves. A true friend wants what is best for you. A true friend is sent by God to lift up and encourage, an undeserved blessing, but one that we gladly receive!
There are more that could be added to the list, but these were topmost in the order. They are not only what I look for in a friend, but also ( as I realized when I was making the list), what I as a friend should be.
I look forward to hearing what you all think.
May God bless,
Nyiad
Monday, February 16, 2009
DEFINITION #1
My definition of a friend is someone who cares about you, not just because you enjoy the same things, enjoy each other's company, etc., but someone who has DECIDED to care about you. Someone who understands that God has brought the paths of your separate lives close enough together that you can impact each other. Someone who knows that God has brought you together for a specific purpose, and who is committed to finding and fulfilling that purpose. Someone who loves you for who you are, not for what you do - because that is how Christ loves us. Christ loves us, not because of what we do, but because we are joint heirs with him and are covered by his blood. A true friend understands that neither of you is perfect, and they don't hold you to a standard of perfection. they understand that we are all sinners, so they won't just walk away when you mess up. Instead, a godly friend will gently and lovingly show you where you were wrong, and help you avoid those same pitfalls in the future.Actually, this is just one facet of my definition of a friend. I have spent an insane number of hours contemplating this very question over the past year, so I could write a whole paper on it. But I won't - for now.
~The Fictioneer (It's Mary, if you didn't guess)
~The Fictioneer (It's Mary, if you didn't guess)
Thursday, February 12, 2009
I HAVE A QUESTION...DO YOU HAVE AN ANSWER?
What is your definition of a friend?
Send me your answers-I will post them and we will see what we come up with. Feel free to write a paragraph or two if you want-I really want your thougths on this, not just a quick answer. (If you don't send it until next week it may take awhile to post as Chip is having his surgery on Wed and things may be a little crazy with us for awhile-but I really hope this turns into a great discussion and I can't wait to see what you come up with.) Anyone can answer.
Mrs. H2O
Send me your answers-I will post them and we will see what we come up with. Feel free to write a paragraph or two if you want-I really want your thougths on this, not just a quick answer. (If you don't send it until next week it may take awhile to post as Chip is having his surgery on Wed and things may be a little crazy with us for awhile-but I really hope this turns into a great discussion and I can't wait to see what you come up with.) Anyone can answer.
Mrs. H2O
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